So we're home 15 months. What's going on?
O- He's learning English & talking up a storm! He is starting to not be so upset when his sisters have "sister time," which basically translates to "little brother, leave us alone to play girl stuff." This used to be really hard for him & he just felt left out. He is beginning to enjoy time w/ the big boys. Long story short, it's hard to be the little guy when you have 4 older siblings all trying to tell you what to do. But, when pushed, motivation can move us & he is starting to find his voice. It's a good thing...on most days. Who thought that hearing your kiddo say no would bring forth a smile on his momma's face? He spent so many of his first months home quiet that we actually wondered if he could talk. Now we know better :) Overall, this little one who was absolutely terrified of life is finally emerging out of his shell.
L- She has learned English in record time & has been using it to tell everyone else what to do. Heard of the strong-willed child...oh my goodness! It is hard when you were the oldest & now you're number 4. But, she doesn't let this stop her from trying. She just might be a CEO when she grows up! She is extremely self-motivated, fantastic at reading the room & practically self-sufficient (or so she believes.) She has kept me on my toes! She has this rather annoying trait of being a perfectionist- (inside joke) she did NOT get this from me...seriously, she could have. Don't you hate it when your kids bring out your own issues? Main point here, she has adjusted amazingly well to the point where people we just meet think we are joking when we say that she's only home from Russia 15 months. This girl is a survivor. That being said, learning to live in a family & actually have parents that are telling you what to do all the time is very difficult for L. Her basic trust of adults has been broken & trying to rebuild that trust is slow-going, but progress is being made!
The other 3- they have all been growing like weeds! They have all done a great job of being patient & teaching their new brother & sister about life in a family. Necessity has prodded them to be more independent, which has been good for them & me. They are far busier this school year than ever before, but are enjoying the change. Having 2 new teenagers in the house has reminded me just how little time we really have with our kids before they're gone. We have now started counting down to life events instead of counting up. It goes too fast!
No one would be surprised that going from 3 to 5 kids has had its difficulties. We had huge transitions the first year home. 2014 has been a welcomed new year & we feel that we are starting the find a rhythm. Life is settling down & we are finding a new normal.
I pray that writing about our journey helps others. This year I am working on living out what's important rather than focusing on living life perfectly. For me, this has always been difficult. It took a good friend to tell me that I was doing a good job, that I was a good mom before I actually allowed myself to believe it. Parenting is hard. It's not about being a perfect parent. God does not want me to spend so much time worrying over the things that I missed, or ways I messed up, or the things I could have done better because then I tend to miss all the things that went right, or ways I did help, or things I did well.
"I think in twenty years, we will regret more of the things we didn't do than things we did imperfectly." Jennie Allen
